why him?

Need for Power and Dominance (control = safety)

Manipulativeness (strategical not accidental)

Emotional Dysregulation and Insecurity (they dominate to avoid vulnerability instead of dealing with these feelings)

Lack of Empathy (performative compassion – can mimic empathy)

Externalization of Blame (they rewrite narratives to avoid responsibility)

Jealousy and Possessiveness (view independence as disloyalty – often monitor their partners)

Sense of Entitlement (expects emotional labour without reciprocity)

Double Standards (rules apply only to the victim)

Charismatic or Charming PUBLIC Persona (care about their public reputation despite being cruel to their partners)

Hyper-Sensitivity or Perceived Slights (they over react to minor criticisms and see neutral comments as attacks)

Rigid Beliefs about Gender Roles (expect their “woman” to be compliant, grateful and loyal)